But isn't it worst to stay on X ?
And we could maybe add an option to choose which relays the group chats publish on ?
I don't know I'm just asking as I can't write/read a single line of code tbh
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Also I've read about NIP44 which seems to improve things a bit, maybe enough for none "criminal" (at the sense of the mafia State) group chats ?
nip44 doesn’t do anything to help or improve anything
giftwraps are probably the best solution but they are clunky
they are not
NIP-42 is
if everyone ran their own relay
only use relays with NIP-42 enforcement for DMs, simple
the relay can already know your pubkey by linking it through your other REQs and your IP
you could also establish a key you use for DMs to a specific person and another to receive, and rotate this every so often
gift wraps are a client DoS vector and do nothing to actually obscure info from relays