Nostr vs #fediverse is more about chaotic vs lawful than good vs evil.
Discussion
What is Fediverse??
Fediverse server admins could be any of the three Lawful ones. Mostly Lawful Evil though.
Anyone who can run a server on fediverse could run a nostr relay (2¢)
The difference is that a fediverse admin owns your account and all your data. When they ban you, they get a perverse little dopamine hit like they’ve made the world a better place by executing your digital presence.
As a Nostr relay admin, at best they shrug and say “not for me” and let you operate elsewhere