yes, that's the moment when you have to figure out who you are. For many, it's just developing the necessary inner perception to let their body and gut tell them who they are.

Then, they can follow their own path congruently instead of feeling forced to live someone else's life.

That's when they know where they're walking to long-term and can therefore abandon mid-term planning and just make sure that every day is lived in accordance with who they are.

I fought myself for way too long figuring out that shit but now I've been at peace for 20 years.