I think people mistake lust and limerence for love.

Limerence can be quite destructive and unsettling.

The craving for another that can be based on sex, power or simply the crave for something we cannot have.

This is not Love.

How many people do you know that spend time ( sometimes years), craving for another only to be totally disappointed after they have it? Some people loose their entire life dealing with this fantasies.

Our mind is a very powerful tool. It can make us believe delusional fantasies for years, that once experienced leave us with a sense of desperation and disbelief. Others just stay stuck in lala land.

I think we can "crave", "desire" many, but to Love in a romantic sense, many people, I don't believe.

To build intimacy with many ? Intimacy demands vulnerability and openness. How many of us are capable of this, towards another?

To be in love means to want the best for another as you would want for self. To make another "self". Few of us experience this kind of love. I see more of this "in love" kind of love in between plutonic connections. I see it more between friends and family of choice, than In between couples.

Of course this "in love" with friends, comes without passion and sexual desire. So it's a different kind of love.

In between couples, to be "in love" with another, and plus feeling passion and sexual desire, I think it is rare. Most people dismiss it when they come across it.

I don't believe we can be "in Love" with many people in a romantic sense. Love is a verb, it has implicit an intention and action to build with another, have a family, have Intimacy, experience life with another on a deep level. I doubt we would want to do this with many people at same time. Do you think it is even possible? To open yourself, free of masks ? Is already difficult with one person...with many? And have it reciprocate?

To know a person, we need daily interactions for at least 6 months, and we are touching only the surface of each other. After this amount of time, when the chemicals that our body realises, start to balance, then we can start to see what our true feelings are towards another.

Plus, even if sometimes we don't notice, we are always evolving and changing. Only connections based on true love will thrive, because is a never ending story between two people who choose everyday to know everything about one other, without stopping the dance of curiosity of knowing who they are becoming.

Everything that is a power struggle is not Love. The couples that fight just to make up afterwards, sorry, but that is not love. That is an addiction to the release of oxytocin and dopamine, the highs and lows. It's like a drug addiction. Of course some people are not compatible, I can understand that. But maybe that is a sign that it is not true Love ?

You see, love is easy and "boring", comes with a sense of peace and ease between two people.

Most people, when in front of it, dismiss it, because they associate love with excitement, highs and lows, the butterflies in the stomach, which is nothing more than lust, that dissipates after a while.

It's like when we want to buy something, we get all excited but once we have it, it looses the initial spike of interest. And then we go for the next thing....it's human behaviour at is best.