Matt, you could setup a private relay and only allow read/write to selected people. In theory if you and I were only using that particular relay, no others, we'd have a private network, to some extend.
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Okay that's interesting - can you specify write only to specific people and allow anyone to read? One of the other reasons I'm considering this is because I want to know that my personal stuff on nostr is always safe.