The fediverse is difficult to navigate because you have to determine who you want to talk to and move as close to them as possible. Ultimately the only way to talk to almost everyone is to make a large number of accounts under different names on different servers so that the identities don't get poisoned for talking to the wrong people and get you banned/ defederated for being on "bad" instances.

The sad truth is that almost nobody actually wants free speech, they just want *their* speech to be free, which limits how successful nostr can get. People love getting other people banned and the power to ban people. Even trolls secretly want to get banned, who would mel gibson fan be without his ~70 banned xitter accounts?