Maybe the paid relay is the gated community you want to live in?
The last truly rotten content I was seeing was via fediverse NoAgendaSocial and I just closed my account and moved to NOSTR. I'm not paying for any relays but I'm also not investing too much time here as I notice my posts don't get very far.
Some of you have deeper relay coverage so I think you are more good and bad. Maybe a baseball rating too.
I'm the end usually I realize I'm getting over sensitive and I need to go read a book or go for a walk or build something and be around live humans. Fortunately my $Fiat job is building piers, boat lifts, driving piles and marine construction so I play on the rivers and ocean.
I think management of content is so granular that it's a science which AI is full of promise and less of profit. As the yoga peeps say, we have 9 gates into the body and each gate is meant to be guarded. I don't even watch modern "entertainment" anymore for the very reason that it's just evil.
Happiness is a warm NOSTR, relay - relay, woot woot!