The whole op return thing is all about having one or more transaction relay networks. If you don’t want to relay some transactions but do want to know meta data about them for accurate fee estimation, go ahead and connect to a libre node and drop any tx you don’t want to relay after noting its size and fee rate.
Libre nodes will relay enough shunned transactions to save bitcoin mining centralization from slipstream type OoB payment pressure.
I think I’ll run a libre node on this principle. It shouldn’t take too many to bypass nodes participating in transaction shunning… nostr:npub1ej493cmun8y9h3082spg5uvt63jgtewneve526g7e2urca2afrxqm3ndrm has a good head about these things.