I don't stop at knowing what you're talking about, I'm 54 and I've lived it my entire life. I am radically different from anyone I know, bit of an autist, developer, adventurer, mountain athlete, bitcoiner, OMAD carnivore, homesteader, etc. Very high drive, high-performance life, big dreams.
I have a philosophy: People are who they want to be
I have a policy: I'll tell you what I know, you do with it what you like
My feelings toward people:
If they want to change, they will. You don't have to force them or even encourage them. If they're not actively pursuing self-improvement and a better life, it means their courage and ambition are maxed out, so they're stuck at their current level.
They currently lack the capacity for further development. That can change at any time, but you can't change it for them. Only when they find it within themselves will they move forward once again.
It pains me to see family and acquaintances struggle with obesity, chronic illness, depression, and finances while I thrive at a high level in all areas.
I have shared my knowledge, numerous resources, and endless encouragement with anyone who will listen for decades. None of it has moved the needle even slightly. No one I know has followed my path or tried to replicate my processes. I leave them further behind by the day.
It's baffling and frustrating. Why wouldn't they follow my lead? I've proven the path, I've ironed out the details, the incredible results are the proof they need, and I'm endlessly supportive!
My theory is that they lack the capacity to drive themselves forward, at least for now. In their hearts and minds, further progress is overwhelming and terrifying. It's a bridge too far. They feel like the present circumstances are more than they can handle already. The thought of taking on more is out of the question.
God knows I've tried. People are exhausted from my encouragement, and I'm exhausted from watching them suffer. Now, I leave them be and focus on myself.
As you can see, I continue to share my knowledge, experiences, and encouragement, but I'm no longer emotionally invested in the outcomes of others. Whatever their reasons, they won't follow my path, and I can't carry them. I can only wish them the best.
If you want to live a high-performance life and preserve your sanity, you must accept that you will leave almost everyone behind, the distance growing further by the day as your gains accelerate you into the distance.
That is where I am at today. I'm elated with my life, and saddened for those I've left behind, but that was their choice, and I am powerless to change their minds.
People are who they want to be.
