You actually set these boundaries while dating and that sets the tone for everything that follows.
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You can pivot in marriage if you miss the boat, but you have to risk it all. Many won't.
Reading Jerr first can help establish the fortitude and psychological independence necessary to decuckidy ones self.
https://www.amazon.com/Wall-Speaks-Jerr-rreJ-ebook/dp/B08VN7PFQF/
decuckify*
