part of my solution has been to make use of the existing data
realy now has a simple moderation interface where you designate npubs whose follow and mute lists rule the relay, and done
this can of course be quite easily implemented by actually following active real accounts and not just ones made for the realy, but you can also even make chatbots then that add and remove follows and mutes according to the command of the actual relay moderators, and automatic payment systems
i'm just in the middle of getting this working, just ironing out some mingw issues right now, but i've also thought about other problems, and i'm trying to layer them up in a logical way, some ideas need further tooling but some ideas are simple additions, and i am trying to focus on implementing things that are simpler first because the complicated things are complicated... one of them involves aggregator services that search for events of a specific kind and related to specific users, but this is a lot more than useful, important baseline things like controlling access and database management basics