Ah, OK. Yeah, surprised by the criticism, not by the skepticism. I wonder if fear that nonmonogamy could be contagious (for lack of a better word) is insight into their own insecurity of the stability of their relationship? Back when I was first getting introduced to what was then called the poly community (late 90's) you would be forgiven for thinking it might be. Lots of couples and singles, then something changed and it turned into a large, complicated, and unstable polycule that fractured apart in unpredictable ways. It was sort of like early teenage relationships, but with adults.

I wonder if that's actually an insight? Would kids coming up in a world where nonmonogamy is an option from the start of their dating relationships handle it better, or at least have the inevitable issues not be nonmonogamy issues, but teenage relationship issues?