I am not a dominatrix, I am not a "dom". But, pretty often, people get the impression that I am.

Why? Well I have managed to rid myself of sexual guilt. I am, at this point in my life, able to discuss sexuality without any refrain, without any pause for embarrassment. That’s unusual, especially in a woman. And often, the only other time someone may have encountered this is in a dominatrix.

And this has lead me to a tragic realization. What our culture commonly thinks of as normal female sexuality... is actually shame.