Or just don't use Umbrel, etc and learn how to roll your own. Otherwise you're just trusting someone else anyway, just a different someone...
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Agree about rolling your own node but he absolutely nothing to do with how bad tg is. Tg is just horrible
Totally agree on TG. I wish more groups would use Matrix. I know not everyone likes the federated model but in terms of ease of use Vs privacy and control etc it's a good balance and a huge step up from TG/WhatsApp/whatever