Yes and no. I do agree that things must “just work” but I don’t fully agree that they shouldn’t be educated on how nostr works. Plenty of technology has a learning curve. iPhone, email, hell… video chat for many people. There’s nothing wrong with having the users learn a few things about the platform they use, people are not that stupid. But yes, things should just work the moment you land. Showing relays in settings is not an issue IMO as long as you explain how they work (but the user is not required to make any changes for things to work).