Find a woman you hate and give her your house. Only half kidding. Marriage has been the hardest thing I’ve ever done. I’m lucky that I found someone who wanted a divorce at different times than I did, and held on to our union, this saving us the halving of our estate, finances, emotional capital and energy. It is first and last a business partnership complicated by emotional attachment, not to be undertaken without intense discussion, financial planning, payment and ownership allocation, crucially brutal honesty. I have been married 30 years, if we make it to the end of October.