The underlying goal of feminism was to make men and women the same (rather than merely equal) in all aspects of public and private life, and to push women from the home or other sheltered place into the public sphere and into positions of leadership.

The state was required to facilitate this, as women need male protection and provision to leave the home safely, and they now receive that from the "collective male" of the state, rather than from any male head of house. In return, the women are now "collective females" for that same male populace, rather than being attached to some particular man.

Any woman who disagrees with this will tend to be more exclusive with the company that she keeps, even if she is not a recluse. Otherwise, her views would be incoherent (as to be feminist is to be less exclusive), and she opens herself up to persecution because she belongs to a beleaguered minority.

And that is why she is difficult to find. She is difficult to find by design.