"When Jesus carried His cross to Calvary in weariness, pain, and misery and shed His blood, He did not pity Himself; nor did He ask pity of others. He said to the women around Him, “Weep not for me, but weep for yourselves,” knowing that God’s severe judgment would fall on Jerusalem (Luke 23:28). Yet when His friend Lazarus died, “Jesus wept” (John 11:35). Christ was not a stoic; He was ruled by love."

-- Joel R. Beeke

https://tabletalkmagazine.com/posts/authentic-ministry-servanthood-tears-and-temptations/