nostr:note187jykylpuymvecew33sve2wkfhnxa56j335w7gwkjk7fatgqvfeqtvgrsd
This is an unnatural state of things, but all social media sites have trained us to believe that whatever they have for us is all that exists.
In real life we often have no idea if people are talking about us or not, unless someone explicitly tell us.
On Nostr, someone can explicitly tell us by learning what are the relays we normally listen to and publishing their mentions there (see NIP-65) -- but this is not the only approach to this.