You always own your notes on Nostr, Not so on fedi. Outbox will solve a lot of these issues, once the major clients (Damus & Primal) implement it that will be a huge boost. Nostr is still early in development (3 years compared to mastadons 10), so there's time to develop other ways of transmitting notes between users. I remember using identi.ca 15 users ago, federated networks have come a long way since then. Nostr isn't in its final form either.
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Damus and Primal aren't doing outbox yet?
The outbox model is great for user based note aggregation, but it is absolutely useless for topic based note aggregation. Personally, I very rarely care what users my notes come from. What I care about is what topics the notes are about. I believe that being able to use relays with your values and relays supporting notes on a given topic is far more important than being able to find a relay that supports notes from a user you like.
I wouldn't count on "[N]otes and [O]ther [ST]uff over [R]elays" to transmit notes in other ways. I believe the direction Nostr needs to go is toward relay auditing and transparency. Unfortunately I haven't heard anyone else advocating for this. I don't believe that self sovereignty advocates on Nostr fully understand the assignment here.
Run your own relay.
Run your own blog. Run your own ActivityPub instance. If all you care about is being able to store your thoughts on an internet box that nobody else will ever visit without specifically looking for it then Nostr provides nothing new.
I don't know why you keep repeating that Nostr allows you to own your own notes. Yes, Nostr is yet another platform that allows this. Why are you picking here and now to emphasize this point? Did I say something to contradict that point? If users are expected to run their own relays then what makes Nostr special?
https://blossom.primal.net/ea97ce80bb0b833c64026e2cab62973588bf8f04ab34cec3034d1fe09c1f474f.mp4
Boring conversation anyways 👋
Thanks for participating in this conversation, especially since you say you found it boring. I found it very interesting.
It's just the same old boring points. I can't fix your complaints, so I don't feel like continuing a useless conversation. No hard feelings, it's just pointless and a waste of my time. ✌️