Things most wives know, but no husbands know.
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I readily admit that I am exhausting. My wife is a saint!
Unusual for a man to realize that he increases her effort or stress, to be honest. They always seem incredulous, when their wives complain. 🤷♀️
This seems to be a cause of the "everything seemed fine and then she threw a fit, had a meltdown, and stormed out".
And the thing the *New Guy* invariably promises is more free time. They seem to all understand how desperate many wives are for things like 8 hours of uninterrupted sleep or the opportunity to read a book, undisturbed.
I suspect marriages often don't last beyond 8 years because that's the amount of time it takes to give birth to one or two kids and get them into preschool. After that, you will usually be required to go back to work.
There's a second divorce-surge, when the kids leave school. Probably the remainder of the wives being sent back to the day job.
What being a housewife does, is allow you to increase your leisure time during his work hours, so that you don't mind all of the evening and weekend stress, as much.
But men get upset at the thought of their wife relaxing, while he's at work. Seems lazy, to them, and a lack of solidarity because they don't realize that she probably considers some/all of her "leisure time" together with him as "work time".
It's a miscommunication of sorts.
I know more stay at home moms. They are not getting leisure time while their husband is at work. At best they’re getting a bit of time while the kid(s) are napping but it’s usually time filled getting things done without kiddos slowing you down. Their husbands pitch in on childcare and household tasks after work too.
That is the exhausted state of all mothers of young children. That's usually only a few years, at the beginning of the marriage. And that is the length of time that almost all marriages last.
Women either need to have more children (to extend this phase and to be "allowed" to remain home), be housewives (to increase their leisure time), or the husbands need to do A LOT more childcare and housework, to make the cost/benefit analysis of continuing the marriage more attractive.
This is only going to be a controversial stance on this particular platform, for the record, since we don't have a representative userbase.
The divorce rate speaks for itself. A lot of women think it's a bad deal and most women aren't religious enough to just suffer it.
You have to have evidence that women are divorcing their husbands and not the opposite though
Most divorces are initiated by wives.
