What about hosting your own simplex server?
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Host a Nostr server =)
Matrix is full of Pedos and I got two emails from my ISP from users on my instance..
The Matrix software is very shitty not worth it
I host several nostr relays lmao. And yeah, I know there's a pedo problem with unintentional hosting and the way that Matrix servers federate and share metadata.
Hence me saying I know it already has its own set of issues.
Oh sweet. Do you use the Strfry filter plugins to get rid of spam?
Its on my list of things to play with. I need to to an overhaul of my relays. Once I'm done getting Grafana set up with the dashboards that I want. I'm going to work on overhauling my relays a bit.
My paid relay is pretty spam free, but the free relay could definitely use some spam filtering.
It only really works if Other people use the server that I'm hosting. Otherwise, I still have to connect to general servers because I'm pretty sure simplex relays don't federate.
Unless my understanding of simpleX is flawed, but I thought the relays were similar to nostr relays.
Since a recent update you can enable private message routing which means you never connect to any servers but your own. Your incoming SimpleX server will then forward your outgoing message to the incoming message server designated by your communications partner.
On the other hand if you can enable a Tor proxy in SimpleX I don't really see any harm in connecting to the other persons SimpleX server directly. The server will only see your Tor IP address (often times not even that when your connect via its hidden service, which most offer).
I would even argue that connecting directly over Tor is more private in the situation where you host a small personal SimpleX server. As a evil SimpleX server: If I see your SimpleX servers' IP connecting I can expect it's you delivering a message. If I see a random Tor exit IP, the anonymity set is much larger.