Marriage is so much more than just a piece of paper. It's a coming together of two people in a bunch if different dimensions, physically, spiritually, emotionally, hopefully intimately by sharing all of ones secrets with each other.

I knew about marriage intuitively, but I only recently got explicit words for it.

It's not supposed to be about the government. It's about two people making a covenant with each other where they are going to choose their commitment above their feelings.

Hollywood taught us to fall in love with someone we've never met but saw across the room.

What marriage really is, is a partnership between two people. A choice to go in the same direction for the rest of one's life.

So, picking a good partner is vital.

Figuring out what one wants out of life and how one is is also vital before being able to make such a decision.

Learning to grow in love instead of falling in love is how to keep it good for a lifetime.

Also, some people think it's about the wedding, or romance, but it's way more about who you wanna sit next to after a long hard day, grocery shop with, going to the dmv with. Paying taxes with (so yes, money is impotent too)

Raise kids with. Even if you don't want kids, if you end up with one, is this person someone you'd consider going through that with?

Good times, bad times, sickness and health, and so on.

However we usually don't hear or think about that part except in the vows.

What are your dreams and what is your adventure that you are inviting someone else to join?

My husband did this, and since he was going in a similar direction I wanted to go, it's working out great!