For me , if I'm interacting with someone , and they introduce a parameter , a request , or a rule , whatever is , ( call me by my nickname , dont make jokes about x,y,z , whatever ) then I have a couple of choices :

1. Accept their request

2 . Reject their request

3. Bargain

And then that person reponds to that decision I've made.

I treat each interaction with each individual seperate , because I view people as being sovereign entities. I might accept one persons request , but ignore the same request from another etc...

This is the basis of sovereign interaction with individuals , we make requests , and respond to them , and live with the consequences , some lead to pleasant relations , others dont .

What I cant stand is the state can DEMAND , under the threat of coercion and violence that I respond a certain way to certain requests (use pronouns etc ) , and they trample over my sovereignty. It's the use of COERCIVE force that I reject and am opposed to .

When someone shows me respect , and respects my sovereignty, I reciprocate, but if they demand respect , under the threat of violence , it will not be forthcoming .