There are 3 categories of problems in your life:

[1] Your Problems (and her big problems) - Your car broke down, her car broke down, your job, immediate financial problems, house matainance, emerging issues, etc. Any real problem that your wife brings to you. You need to handle these things and not put any burden on your wife.

[2] Shared Problems - These are things such as long-term finacial planning, big purchases, etc. You need to create a plan for these things, get your wife's buy-in, and then she can help you execute if necessary.

[3] Her Small Problems - These are make believe girl problems. Becky is being a bitch, her sister did a stupid thing, the cleaning lady is coming tomorrow. Listen to her, repeat the problem and impact back to her, but do not offer new solutions. She does not want your solutions, she wants you to hear her, understand her, and support her.

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