When you want to get good at basketball, you can go to any court and throw the ball into the basket as many times as needed. There are no deep fears or biological defenses stopping you. If you miss, you don’t feel ashamed or threatened — you just keep throwing and naturally improve.

But this principle doesn’t work as easily when it comes to people — like approaching girls on the street, getting into arguments, handling business deals, or navigating any situation that involves potential conflict or rejection. Our bodies are wired with genetic defenses that make these interactions feel dangerous. Every time we approach someone, we feel fear, tension, and the possibility of something going wrong. Most people can’t just try, fail, and repeat the process like they would with shooting a basketball.

However, if you use your conscious mind, you can retune your internal programming. You can recognize that these situations are usually safe, manage the fear, and start taking action. The more you repeat the process, the more skilled and confident you become.

It might feel unnatural, hard, or even terrifying at first. But if you put in consistent time and effort, you’ll build a system that allows you to get better at anything — one deliberate step at a time.

When progress is the goal, you become unstoppable.

— Warrior's Path