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It's crazy to me how many people I meet in their early 30s don't want kids.

It usually comes off in 1 of 2 ways:

1) Defeatist: I'll never meet the right girl or I can't afford a house so how can I afford kids

2) Denialism: Maintaining my freedom is a much better life than being tied down with kids

Whether it be adherence to a moral code, a habit, a person, religion or career, I have personally found that living a life full of commitments brings the most joy so I don't understand people subscribed to #2

My biggest commitment is to myself and giving up is something I'll never do, so I also don't understand #1 though I know why this is pervasive.

To each their own, but on a societal scale, I think this sentiment will lead to a generation of lonely old people. That is both sad and incredibly scary.

pukka 4mo ago 💬 3

I’ve come to realize that life takes time. There’s no quick fix or instant improvement. It requires time and investment in yourself and your partner. You’re never truly ready to be a parent.

I understand trying to establish yourself and waiting to have children, but not having children at all is strange.

I understand how the system works; I’m living in it. Sometimes, you just have to do something you don’t want to do to earn a living. Skip the drama and you’ll have plenty of time.

Having children teaches you a lot about life and makes you appreciate it even more.

So No to DINKs

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pukka 4mo ago

*say no to DINKs 😆

Ben Justman🍷 4mo ago 💬 15

Say no to DINKs

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BTCWizard 4mo ago

Agreed, except I think there's no point of getting married unless you're ready to have kids.

That said, if you're ready to get married, you're probably ready to have kids too.