Hi!
First of all,who are they? Are they your spirit guides? It’s not clear in the text. About crystals not changing habits: of course they don’t. The only person responsible for changing your life is yourself. Crystals work with your energy,and the only person who can program a crystal is you with your intentions. I believe that your ex husband’s friend did something wrong with the tablets. These things are supposed to bring relief not fever. There’s a red flag here. Regarding tarot readings: they bring clarity,advice and guidance. They are not miraculous. You’re the one in charge of making good decisions and the tarot only helps you with that. About leaving these things behind and taking care of what’s real: these things are also real and the living proof is that they’ve been with you for a long time but you were brainwashed to believe that the spiritual world is not important or not worth your attention. If you don’t want to pay attention to it,that’s your problem and choice. But I think if you took the time to write down this big narrative is because there’s something bothering you,and it’s not only the fever.