Your client asks relays to delete. Relays may comply or not. And they also forward your deletion request to clients, which may comply or not. So far I think there is little compliance because these things are a pain in the ass to implement for everybody, luckily they are optional!
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Yeah!, at first i thought all a big design flaw, but i now think, wtf is expected? birdside 2.0.
This protocol is do what u want, full stop. And i ✌️🤞 i will no langer lammer about websocket spamming.