Another way of processing this idea is to be open to lowering your standards as your future unfolds.

“Standards” which are intimately related to expectations are woven tightly into the way that I process both my relationships and responsibilities. Standards help me navigate my future. The amount of frustration and grief I was/am able to constructively deal with by strategically lowering my standards or changing my expectations has been a major positive life unlock.

Now don’t get me wrong, I definitely have some non negotiable’s, but they don’t resemble the long list I had when I first became aware of them. The result has been heightened clarity of thought around what is important to me and a better sense of what to focus on.

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