The weirdest thing about the Women are All Scammers meme is that I'm a woman on Nostr and I've been zapped waaaaaayyyyy less than the male npubs complaining.
There's only a handful of women getting big zaps and it seems almost random. And there are guys getting the same zaps.
A lot of the women you see trending actually run relays or have paid for client subscriptions, etc. or just add more value to our feeds than they get in zaps returned.
Just stop your thirsty habit of sending strangers money in the hopes of getting a date or some nudes, and you don't have to care if they're real.