Sincere question:

My fiancee has a beautiful Labradoodle, an amazing animal. Perfect dog for our small town life.

I’ve run into a disagreement however, in that I let her (the fiancee) know from the outset that I won’t pick-up dog poop.

Background: I’ve raised two children prior, and had no problem changing diapers all the way through. I’m not above getting my hands dirty for anything with the people I love.

I’ve also raised many breeds of animals, and theres always many degrees of messiness involved in that, which I’ve never questioned.

But I let her know early on that I won’t pick up dog poop.

And that’s become a bit of an issue between us recently.

I’m an accomplished person, yet very humble, imo. I have and will do whatever it takes to make my love’s life better, and our wonderful dog’s life better.

But I won’t pick up dog poop.

I don’t want to make it someone else’s problem either, but I also wouldn’t have a dog if I had to pick up the poop. This amazing animal serves no need in my regard, but gives fundamental emotional support for the woman I love. I stated early on that I will embrace this wonderful animal, but if it poops on walks, it’s hers to pickup.

That “understanding” is getting push-back. But I feel strongly I want to stand my ground.

I will not pickup dog poop if I don’t wish to.

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For the record, this post is both truth and allegory.

This really a battle worth having? Bring poop bags on walks. Get one of those buckets on a stick with a little rake. Go through the yard once a week.

Become The Poop Master. The Poop Master doesn't let poop interfere with his relationships. He gets shit done and gone.

That's a tough one for sure. Did she own said animal prior to your relationship or did you make your stance heard before she got it?

If former, I would sort of lean on you accepting her and her support animal "in sickness and in health", so making the pooless affirmation is unfair since she had no choice to agree and proceed if she felt love for you and hoped you would come around.

If latter, and she agreed to the terms before getting the animal, you can stand justafiably firm. But if she is so affected by your resolution in this matter there are many outcomes including breakup. You may regret that later so it comes down to love of course. Only you can answer what her happiness actually means to you.