This may sound ironic and/or counterintuitive, but can you try reducing your relays down to less than 10?
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Also remove the duplicate relay from your list
Which relay is a duplicate? I don’t see that in my settings.
Isn't it the more relays we connect to, the better?
There are unsolved performance issues with many relays and large contact lists
Which relays would you suggest I rid myself of? 6 of my relays are specialized relays, the others are generalized.
I’d actually prefer a future where I can connect to MORE specialized relays, and curate my feed to see content specifically related to the specialized relays.
Maybe you can give me the option of turning relays off to improve performance without straight deleting them from my list- ala global feed.