I went through the above list almost exhaustively. Without the need to set up my own node, I was unable to find a non-custodial wallet that will allow my the use nwc to link to #alby.
If I decide to set up and maintain a lightning node, I'll do it through alby. I was hoping to avoid this, but it might just be good for me to figure it out and play with.
Although #Coinos is custodial, I should say that I have been very happy with the ease of their setup. Everything is working fine and I am linked in to alby (avoiding a paid solution)... and since I use it exclusively for Nostr zapping, my wallet only has about $15 of #btc anyway, so I'm pretty much fine with it being custodial.
It seems like #Mutiny (not on the list above) would have been a perfect solution as they were non-custodial and had nwc capability, but they are discontinuing their service.
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