nostr:npub1uc6tx7ur9wfj7v2vydrdgyw53l6p53g0dd9m7q5d52rsrgg0zlzsw3kd4h there are a lot of facets to this, i think, and it depends...

i was slow to develop social skills. i had a desire to socialise, but was clumsy about it, often being mocked and bullied by NTs in school.

i also score high on the Neuroticism trait on the Big Five personality scale. the Neuroticism scale is sometimes flipped upside down and relabeled Emotional Stability. being that kind of person makes you vulnerable around people, so there's this inner conflict between wanting to socialise and not wanting to get hurt or humiliated all the time, not helped by foolish decisions you sometimes make when you have ADHD.