It is really weird how the fediverse is bifurcated like that. The server I ran for myself and like four other people was kind of shunted into the "freespeech" Side of the Fediverse, which, unfortunately, included pedophiles and actual Nazis. So it ended up being a game of whack-a-mole (ie moderation on my own server) because I didn't want to see that stuff, but at the same time I wasn't going to set hardcore speech policies for my server. But I was blocked by a huge Portion of the Fediverse for simply not having speech policies.

I think on my server the only thing it said was like, "just don't be a dick." And that wasn't enough for a large portion of the Fediverse.