Have a look at #tailscale. It's a personal VPN that can securely* make all your devices (home server, pi, phone, VPS, etc.) appear to each other like they're on the same network, so you can utilize them appropriately.

If you zap me, you're essentially asking my VPS proxy for an invoice from my tor LN node, but my LN node is hosted privately however I want; the sender never interacts directly with that private part of the stack, and I can move my node around whenever.

*Tailscale is based on wireguard which is reasonably & relatively secure. I pretty much trust it, but DYOR