It's a long time, I ran from our house twice and left when I was 19. It takes every few years for me to write my mother she behaved badly and I don't want to stay in touch. She crawls back in my life in some time and within few years tries to bully me again. She's like a pubescent kid. It's difficult to understand what traumas she had, but also protect myself from this utter bullshit. She believes I'm wrong. But now my brother who lives there chased away second fiancee. Including me, they destroyed third young woman who ran away. I don't want to stay in touch with this.