I don't require membership, I require merit and honor
we all play them, it’s baked into the cake
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/58642436-the-status-game
Discussion
I think of merit as the act of being rewarded based on your actions
And honor as being principled in your life
Both of which can be successful methods of building status within a tribe, which is why so many humans value them