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> if something is wrong, it must be their fault and they just need to work harder to maker everyone else happier

This is so toxic! Particularly because kids tend to assume this is the case ( for reasons explored by both developmental and evolutionarypsych). So they need to be regularly reassured that the dysfunction of the adults around them is *not* their fault.