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i'm noticing on the Venn friend making app that i find it more awkward to swipe right on a man than a woman.

it's something about how the whole user experience is structured. it resembles a dating app too much, so you feel you're signalling interest in a guy by swiping right.

and there is just something a bit awkward about two adult men who are strangers having an intimate one-to-one conversation together as their first encounter.

oh, and since this resembles a dating app so much, people end up using it for dating and hookups anyway.

so, personally, as a man, it's not an appealing option for me to make male friends through. i think it might work a little better for women in that regard, but i'm not sure.

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Thorwegian (old account) 2y ago

i mean, as a man, meeting another man to try to build a connection outside of an existing social or business context just feels a little strange. that doesn't feel very natural to me. heavy amounts of awkwardness, because the intent is to make a new buddy, but it feels like you're out on a first date.

is it rational to feel this way? no, probably not, but i expect my mental wiring here isn't so dissimilar from that of other men.