This is why clients all need to implement lists so you can select which of your people lists you want to look at. The kind:3 "contact" list is such a blunt instrument.
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Lists are the solution.
:noStrudel: leading the way 💪
i switched to nostrudel about 6 weeks ago because it was the only one with proper outbox NIP-65 support which helped a lot with my relay dev testing
and now it's gonna have NIP-42 real soon (hzrd149 says he's got it as a high priority) which is gonna make it the number one client for my needs