Perhaps I can elaborate on what nostr:nprofile1qqsvr6dt8ft292mv5jlt7382vje0mfq2ccc3azrt4p45v5sknj6kkscq9ertq may be thinking. Because I thought this too when I first read it.

The main premise of the book is that ANY aggressive means of parenting is wrong. This includes spanking, yelling, shaming, etc.

I understand the hesitation for this line of thinking, especially in light of what we gen-x people see as a snowflake culture.

I also understand, first hand, the difficulty in trying to rationalize with a child about right and wrong. Especially about complex situations. However...

It was a very helpful guide as i raised my son. It gave me a perspective about how powerful aggressive parenting techniques could be and how easily the could get out of hand. This book tampered me.

Did I ever use "agressive" parenting techniques with my son? Yes, I absolutely did. But only when I felt that it really mattered. 2 times in 28 years if I recall.

1 was when he disrespected his mother

2 when he violated gun safety rules.