Perhaps they don't value themselves enough

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Or too highly. Or both, in some bizarre combination.

But we do have high expectations, in our own way, don't we?

Like, we expect more attentiveness, reliability and empathy. If he's late or will be away for awhile, I'd expect him to call or text me. If I've had a bad day at work, I expect him to at least pretend to care and give me a hug, and let me rant. Bring me something to drink, if he sees me chatting with my friends on the couch. Visit me in the hospital and bring me something to read and my favorite pillow.

That sort of thing. Probably quite rare, nowadays. Modern dating often be like

That's a good thought. And it's definitely true. I have really high expectations. More immaterial expectations. To the partner in itself. It's just the material things that seem so trivial to me. So not in principle. Financial security should not be underestimated. But not some Gucci nonsense.

Yeah, I guess I'm looking at character traits. Same stuff I'd look for in a friend, employee, or even a business partner, I guess.

I don't like drama, ghosting, meanness, indifference, tardiness, wastefullness, etc. No amount of money would make up for that. And someone with good character traits is a better financial bet, overall, in lots of different ways.

Like, my husband does a good job when he's at home with the kids. I can go to work or school and I come home and everything is fine and he's cooking dinner and is like, How was your day, honey?

He's just a good person.

I really needed that, too! I tend to have jobs with odd hours or business trips. If I'm off at a conference for a week or two, I don't want to come home to the kids half-starved and the house looking like it's been hit by a tornado.

I want to come home to some nice pasta and a glass of 🍷 and someone to talk to.

That's what a partnership is all about. Building something together, being there for each other, raising children together, standing up for each other, being able to rely on each other. It's give and take. I definitely need that in a relationship too. That's real appreciation. The appreciation that I want

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And that's exactly why I have the feeling that these women don't value themselves enough. They only pay attention to financial benefits, they obviously think that they are not worth high expectations in the interpersonal sphere, i.e. when it comes to a man taking care of them beyond the financial aspect.