Its not just, or even mainly the individuals fault.
In 1950s civil defence manuals, a traumatised newcomer to your bunker was supposed to be welcomed, listened to, and then promptly given something useful to go on with. Silent Generation culture.
Today, a paper cut or micro aggression is a signal to be rushed out, be praised for newfound specialness, and taken away for days from being collectively useful and valued. So that the victim can ruminate, catastrophise and despair. "Psychological healing", we call it. You might need a paid friend to praise you and establish a codependent parasocial relationship.
Keeps a lot of social workers and psychotherapists busy. Keeps SSRI tablets flying off the shelves.
The costs, though, are borne by others...
