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What we really need is a book called: How to Lose Friends and Leave People Alone.

I'm on this right now. One of my close friends went to that stubborn spiral of handling life and her kid in a tight grip. God bless her, she has it hard and is awesome to manage, but lately gets triggered by everything, reacts with ill humor to the simplest things and cannot be dealt with anymore.🫠 I'm done being exhausted by smalltalk.🫠

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[ARCHIVED] Jay 1y ago

I had a friend like that too. Always complaining and always on edge. But I had no idea how to distance myself from that besides just being myself, which worked cause one day I did something that offended her and a very complex house of cards fell over and I haven't talked to her since. There was apparently a lot of straw on that camel's back.

So I figure if I just be myself, that's apparently enough to repel such people.

Bearetta left 1y ago

I'm nice. I could offend her greatly around parenting, since she's hard authoritarian always rough at her kid, but that would do potentially more damage and is just a low blow. I guess I'll just disappear.

[ARCHIVED] Jay 1y ago

Doing nothing is a powerful and difficult thing to do. Good luck.

Hurvajs Rumcajs 1y ago

Statistics, she should look at that. Tight grip = more chances to get disappointed or to things to go not according the plan.

(duh)

[ARCHIVED] Jay 1y ago

I learned this after reading Fooled By Randomness. Trying to be too "in control" really does make more things go wrong.

Bearetta left 1y ago

Yep. And not my problem.