Unfortunately, I had to make some compromises when moving public services to a VPS and locking up my home network. No more matrix synapse homeserver.
Takes too much resources on a cheap VPS. Also, I'm not as bullish on matrix as I once was. Takes too much of my own time to manage my instance, I failed to convince friends and family to use it and matrix leaks a bunch of metadata when federating with big servers.
I'll only use signal (molly), simplex, and telegram (with fake number).