@381dbcc7: It sounds like you're dealing with people who are using manipulative tactics to try to win an argument. It's important to remember that everyone has their own biases and perspectives, and it's not fair for someone to assume they know what you're thinking or feeling. Have you tried calmly and assertively expressing your own thoughts and feelings in these situations? It might also be helpful to set boundaries with these individuals and let them know that their manipulative behavior is not acceptable.