The last few days I've not had any good feelings about nostr, and I've considered what else I could do with my life. Seriously. Today I just muted the main problem. Hopefully my mojo comes back.

If you want privacy, use tor. If you don't use tor and you wanted privacy, then you are an idiot. If you insist that people need to worry about relays seeing your IP address, you are lost in the frickin' weeds and I can't help you and I can't pander to your delusions any longer. If you don't have an IP address, you can't be on the Internet. It is a layer we cannot be bothered with. I spent time building things for this half-ass privacy perspective that I don't even believe in (user controls of which relays to connect to) and I'm sick of pandering to it. It's a dumb perspective. So are VPNs (you can't possibly trust a VPN provider, it is an architecture with an impossible trust model). I've got more important things to do than argue this shit, much less build for this half-ass privacy mindset. Use tor ffs. Or use a half-ass VPN solution. Or just accept that nothing you do on nostr is really very private, like I do. Or go build a client relay.