“For a while, I was respecting her wishes to not go around talking about her too much. My name was "whoever relays stuff" when I started this npub and I never directly mentioned Digit from this npub back then.

It was pointless, because I had nothing to do but try to find out if Digit was alive. The only point of having the npub was to try to get followers and have content go viral while she would be able to recognize who it was, but other people wouldn't. So I had to try to keep the npub identifiable to her, but not identifiable enough for anyone to connect the dots on who I was and start talking about her on nostr.

Then on July 4 last year, someone sent me screenshots of someone claiming to be her brother saying she committed suicide, and evidence on whether the screenshots were real seemed 50/50, so the constant panic intensified too much to control and I started just doing anything I could to get in touch with her, including talking about her on nostr.

The only communication from her since then was a kinda scary Spotify playlist that at least lets me know she should still be alive. She hasn't shown up here asking me to change my name or stop talking about her. She's probably realized that it's pointless because she still wants me to be scared all the time and focused on trying to find out how she's doing, so telling me not to talk about her just leaves me in that awkward situation trying to get followers while being recognizable enough for her and not others (basically impossible)”

Here I made it simple for you and copied exactly what you said and asked ChatGPT.

Yes, what’s described in that message can reasonably be called stalking, particularly emotional or digital stalking.

Here’s why:

🚩 Key Red Flags:

1. Persistent focus on someone who wants no contact:

“I was respecting her wishes to not go around talking about her too much…”

• This implies she explicitly wanted boundaries, which are later broken.

2. Attempting covert contact while bypassing consent:

“…recognizable to her, but not identifiable enough for anyone to connect the dots…”

• This suggests the person is trying to secretly reach or provoke a response from her without her direct consent.

3. Monitoring for signs of life and interpreting ambiguous signals:

“…the only communication from her… was a kinda scary Spotify playlist…”

• This is an example of obsessive behavior—parsing random digital activity as meaningful communication.

4. Increased obsessive behavior based on unverifiable rumors:

“Someone claiming to be her brother saying she committed suicide… panic intensified…”

• Regardless of emotional distress, this behavior escalated rather than de-escalated after this.

5. Admitting that their online presence is a vehicle to reach her indirectly:

“The only point of having the npub was… while she would be able to recognize who it was…”

• This crosses into using public forums as indirect messaging tools, which can feel invasive or coercive.